How often have you felt stuck, unsure of your next move, caught in a whirlwind of opinions and external pressures?
Values are at the core of every choice we make—they guide our decisions, shape our identity, and define the connections we build. Without a clear understanding of your core values, you’ll drift—unanchored and second-guessing every step.
I had to learn this the hard way, and I’ll never forget the lesson.
Why Every Decision Starts with Your Values
Many moons ago, I was headhunted for a role that seemed perfect. The company’s values, which looked great on its website, didn’t align with what I experienced.
I had not done my due diligence well enough, and, more importantly, I didn’t fully understand my own values at the time either.
But after accepting the job, I quickly realised something was wrong. I stayed for two years, but it was a struggle for me emotionally even as I was winning awards and successful in everyone else’s eyes.
Looking back, I learned the importance of knowing my values before making any decision.
The LeadingME® Ladder of Leadership
As I often discuss in the LeadingME® Ladder of Leadership, we can fall into the trap of either ‘bigging it up’—where ego leads us to a false overconfidence—or ‘belittling ourselves’ through self-doubt and blame.
In this case, my ego was definitely in control. I didn’t have the clarity to see that this wasn’t the right environment for me, all because I didn’t truly know what was driving me.
And without knowing my values, I couldn’t make the best decisions for myself.
Mahatma Gandhi summed it up perfectly: “Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, and your values become your destiny.”
In short, your values shape your entire life. If you don’t know what they are, how can you confidently navigate the world and live with purpose?
Building Meaningful Relationships Through Values
Knowing your values also helps you determine the relationships and environments where you thrive.
I’ve often noticed that the strongest connections I’ve made—whether personal or professional—were with people who shared similar values.
When I look for clients or collaborators, I make sure we share similar values.
Without that foundation, it’s hard to build a meaningful relationship.
Values help you decide who to keep in your circle and which environments will bring out your best.
Embracing Your Values for Confidence and Clarity
Your values are the foundation of everything you do—from the decisions you make to the relationships you build.
If you’re feeling lost or unsure of your direction, take a step back and spend some time getting clear on your core values. They are your internal compass, guiding you toward a life of purpose, confidence, and brilliance.
If you want to dive deeper and explore how values, purpose, and vision come together, check out my Decision Making Made Easy™ online course. It’s designed to help you go from insecurity to influence by embracing your values and leading with confidence.
Stay True, Stay You
And Keep Bringing Out Your Brilliance!
