BLOG

Author: Mags Bell

I was out having a meal the other night with a group of people that I had just met.  To begin with there were five of us in the Turkish restaurant waiting for one more to turn up.  We were all chatting, laughing and asking each other questions to find out more information: our likes and dislikes. The other person was running late so we ordered for all of us.

Running_Man

We were all eating the wonderful Turkish starters when the person arrived.  She was completely full on,

accusing people of arranging to meet at the hotel.  When it all came to light it turned out that she had been having major problems with her mobile phone and only received the message that had been left for her when she sat down at the table.

The whole event reminded me of times when I have rushed in accusing someone of something that they are either not responsible for or, as in this case, turned out to be a misunderstanding.

Our own insecurities show up dreadfully in these situations, due to our head imagining so many different reasons for the problems or issues we think we have.  In the majority of cases it is a simple misunderstanding.

When we do come in with all guns blazing, we usually end up with egg on our face: feeling embarrassed, stupid, silly, flustered, self-conscious and many other feelings too.

How Can We Avoid These Embarrassing Mistakes?

  • Firstly, stop allowing our imaginations to run riot
  • Don’t allow anger, fear or paranoia to build until we have the facts
  • Find out the real situation from the other person’s point of view before blabbing out our own opinions
  • Discuss it in a calm and non-judgemental fashion
  • And don’t forget to laugh about it!

It is just not worth the grief we cause ourselves and it is all our own doing!

It’s easy to feel lost when you’re trying to lead alone, which is why
Dare to Shine Your Brilliance exists—not just as a community, but as a sanctuary where driven souls like you can feel truly seen, understood, and supported. Move past doubt, step into your purpose, and lead with clarity, surrounded by those who believe in your potential.

💎Join the VIP List now to secure a special offer and be among the first to step into your brilliance!

More Articles

Proof

Love having Mags Bell

I absolutely love, love, love having Mags Bell, at our wonderful summit. She does an amazing job every time. I have so many people coming

Lisa Sweeney
Director Business in Heels International (Event Organiser)

Mags was a perfect fit for Ferring

“When utilising an external speaker for a sales conference, it is really important that the person feels comfortable with the Company’s culture and values and

Kristina Vincenc
Sales and Marketing Director Ferring Pharmaceuticals
“I thought I should write to let you know how the CPD course for the East of Scotland Breast Nurses was received by ourselves and

Susan Taylor
Hospitality Specialist (Organiser) Roche Products Ltd
“I would say that it has really made me reevaluate my core values and how important they are in my decision making. I make day

David Roger
Snr Teacher Linlithgow Academy
Thanks for a great session on Monday. I believe you have inspired the students. We had a nice wee session in the afternoon, and we

Anne Tierney
Biosciences, University of Glasgow
“My team gained new insight into how they can affect their own performance daily, something simple like deciding you are going to have ‘a blue

Margaret Matthews
Merck Sharp & Dohme Inc
Thanks for a great session on Monday. I believe you have inspired the students. We had a nice wee session in the afternoon, and we

Karen Jarvis
Linlithgow Academy, Scotland
“Love the energy that she brings with her everywhere she goes. Mags was amazing!! She is funny, engaging, heart-felt and her content is of great

Desire Taylor
Business In Heels, Sydney